Lately, I’ve seen some crazy negativity that is directed towards myself, towards excellent writers, or towards people I really respect. The negativity comes in the form of passive aggressive chatter, inappropriate comments, and general childish snark that seems like something respectable adults would never engage in.
The Hunting Of The Snark
If any of my content offends or affects you in a negative way, it might be time to ask yourself what that says about you. I call things as I see them – I write about the truths I find in my own life. I write them in a way that they mean something to me, but could be applicable to anybody. If you don’t like my message (first off, why are you reading… and), you should wonder why an article about what I’ve experienced and found to be true, affects you so negatively.
It’s not that I have intentionally done anything detrimental TO YOU (as in things that don’t jive with my high personal standards and sense of respect for others and myself) because I believe in complete honesty – a girl should be able to speak her mind. Call it “psychobabble” if you will, but if something I say makes you feel angry or wrong, maybe the way you are living your life and the actions you take don’t jive with YOUR personal standards. If that isn’t the case, what I say shouldn’t affect you (my statements would not matter).
In fact, this is a little lesson to take with you when interacting in the world: Your negativity isn’t about the person or thing that may have inspired the negative feeling. It’s about you, your own life, your own self and your own truths. It’s about how a life message doesn’t mesh with the vibe you’re giving off. If something ruffles your feathers, maybe it’s time to change that vibe.
Remember how I wrote that post on how cattiness is out of style? Well, on that “totally uncool” list is blaming your problems and unhappiness on someone else. All that is up to you. I, personally, am choosing not to let that kind of negative noise into my sphere.
Who said what to you? I will beat that bitch’s ass!!
I’m with Wendy, I want to know who said what! I’m so nosy…
I agree with you totally! I’m trying really, really hard to be more positive lately. I can’t help but expect someone to be rude to be about it, with some of the attitudes I’ve seen (of course, expecting someone to be like that is probably just as much my issue as them being rude is their’s…)
Anyways, love this post!
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I know this has been a trying time for you but you have handled the whole situation with such class. You haven’t let this take over your life, or bring you down to this persons level and that says a lot about you.. awesome.
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