Smart Words

I loooooooove Miss Marie’s site to death – mostly because I could giggle for hours at the awesome stuff she posts, and she’s an incredibly smart cookie.

There was the dramz and though I didn’t have a whole lot to say on the matter, I picked up some AMAZING smarts from some AMAZING commenters, and a response from Marie that was spot-on.  If you didn’t read about it…. you can… or you can not, but think about these 2 comments.  I identified with them because that’s my idea of how the world turns:

Tiffany Says:

Girl, I have this theory and YOU know it, but I’m gonna post it here because I think everyone in the whole world needs to see my smelly ol’ opinions.

I got this rep on certain areas of the internet for being anti-fatty and I stand by it. The way I define “fat” is not a dress size, or how much ass you fit inside them jeans, it’s an attitude, a mind set, a personality.

Fat girls are the ones continuously trying to remind you that real women have curves and sulking in a corner when they are reminded that Marilyn’s size 14 was not THEIR size 14. You know, the gals who make FAT LOVE blog posts about other girls who have a healthy self-esteem.

Badass broads don’t bother with negative body nomenclatures, because anyone who is anyone would never identify them with the CHUBS and FATTY words in the first place.

I’ll be inside a shabby chic coffin before I would call any of the ladies I love and respect any word that isn’t “fly” “legit” “badass” etc. And while it may sometimes slip that I’m jealous of a someone’s bodacious figure, I’ll be damned if I call them something best left to the girls that have NOTHING ELSE to offer other than their big bodied pride.

A size 2 girl can be a big old fatty in my mind, the moment they start going out of their way to bring attention to their body size, in any way that could be insulting to someone else. I mean, what if I did a “potato-shaped woman love” or “diminished glutes girls” blog. That shit just wouldn’t be ok, despite the fact I’ve accepted the fact I’ve got a mad shapeless torso and flat ass.

Be comfortable with your body and you won’t need “FAT PRIDE”.

Marie Says:

I never write about anything controversial on here. MY INTERNET MAXI PAD is the Pee Wee’s Playhouse for Fashion Bloggers where we talk constantly about ladyboners and wear corn suits. I have never once planned or thought to have such a crazy ass blog.

I’d love to reply to all of you but I never got that glass of wine. Please know that I appreciate everyone’s input on this topic, no matter whose “side” you are on. Everyone has very valid points and that is the sexiness of free speech!

SO LEMME BREAK IT DOWN TO YOU.

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Obviously it has become a big deal and woken up a lot of feelings and opinions and I think it’s a truly interesting debate. Especially because it touches on multiple subjects under the same umbrella.

For all of you that are “Pro-fat” I respect you and I understand what you are trying to do by re-claiming the word and making it positive. Personally I don’t agree with it but that is fine! Do what you gonna do! But try to understand some of us can’t see things your way. And that is OK.

No matter what size you are if you are healthy and happy I am inspired by you. EVERYONE gets discriminated in some way or another. I have naturally skinny friends who have been accused of being drug addicts or anorexic! How the fuck do you think they feel? It sucks for everyone. The world is cruel!

As for movements, I’ll crusade one. It’s called “Bitch Ple Do Your Own Damn Thang movement.” That’s about all of a title you are going to get from me. I don’t say much about my body because I don’t really think about it. I’m not “in denial” about shit! Maybe that’s me being a little of the strong yet silent type?

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I have this site to talk about cute clothes, cute boys and above all to make people fucking laugh man. That’s all this girl wants to do. If I somehow inspire you in a positive way, that makes me feel really fucking good. But I don’t ask people to judge my curves. I ain’t in no blogger beauty pageant. I don’t see myself as some style icon when I look in the mirror. I see myself as a fun girl who likes to dress however she wants.
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I still stand by my belief that style should not be segregated. I hope someday we don’t have to do any kind of movement to prove that we are all confident and sexy. Maybe that is the unicorn-riding hippie in me, but until then, always be proud of who you are, but be compassionate. We are all strong people with fire in our hearts so it’s hard not to get heated but deep down everyone here wants to just be happy and do good. And keep that in mind always.

So even though I don’t have much to say on the matter, I think what I would have said is right there. I’m continually amazed at the beauty and wit of the people who inspire me, and I hope you find this inspiring too…..